Yes, women should respect themselves and not cheaply sell their bodies ... but men also need to respect women. In 'hip hop' slang a woman is referred to as a 'ho' or a 'bitch' (and who knows what else). This is not respect, it's not 'hip' and it's not 'great songwriting'.
You say you find Akon 'a great singer/songwriter' ... whereas TriniGourmet's opinion is that his lyrics and personal sentiments toward women are 'so sickening'. I wouldn't know(having not heard his music) ... but looking at the way he was treating that woman on stage I wouldn't be surprised that TriniGourmet is right.
In your opinion, he is 'not to be blamed' ... but from my perspective he disrespected that woman ... whether or not she was up there for 'a slice of the cake' (the spotlight) as you suggest ... or whether she was up there because she really felt she would win a trip to Africa ... whether or not she was a 'fool'.
Deceiving the women (whether as a 'joke' or not) by conning them into coming up on stage to win a trip was the first bit of disrespect. Their choosing to go up on stage to wine is their choice ... and, sadly, in a land where wining is proudly considered 'we culture' no matter how sluttish it looks, they most likely thought nothing of going up to 'represent'.
There are people who are saying (and will say) that the girl 'looked for it' by going up. As a friend of mine said, that is like saying a woman 'looked' for rape because of what she was wearing or where she was walking. The same friend also pointed out that Machel and other local soca artistes also invite women to wine on stage but (as vulgar as they may come across at times) we have never seen them fling a woman around the stage like a sack.
Is it that once a male 'superstar' is heterosexual, it's okay, normal and expected (perhaps even encouraged) for him to do whatever he wants on stage, no matter how sexually graphic and disrespectful, and 'get away' with it? Meanwhile, Elton John quietly coming to play his piano and sing his songs is raked over the coals.
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